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Streaming Masses and Announcements for the Week of 29 January 2023

 

Today's Live-Streamed Mass

Worship Aid for the 4th Sunday of Ordinary Time

fleur cross logo Join us on Tuesday, January 31, from 7-8:30 pm for Mass and Holy Hour in prayer for the Virginia Pro-Life Day on February 1.

fleur cross logo In support of Catholic Charities Migration and Refugee Services, Saint Bernadette will host a Baby Supplies Drive from January 21 through February 1. Our Fall 2023 Confirmation Candidates will pack diaper bags with supplies as a Work of Mercy in late February to be given to families served by Catholic Charities. The Migration and Refugee Services refugee health team has requested the following items. Items can be brought to the church during weekend Masses on January 21-22 and 28-29 and to the Pro-Life Mass and Holy Hour on Tuesday, January 31. 

  • Large items: infant car seats, strollers, pack and play, baby bathtub, bouncy seat, baby nest bed (click here for example), diaper bag, nursing pillow, wearable baby carrier, tummy time activity mat, pregnancy pillow, maternity jeans in small and medium
  • Diaper bag items: baby clothes for newborn-12 months, baby hygiene kit (click here for example), swaddling blankets, baby bottles, pacifiers, baby blankets, baby soap, baby shampoo, and baby oil.

For more information, please get in touch with Grace Rihl at grihl@stbernpar.org

fleur cross logo Concerts at Saint Bernadette present the Beau Soir Ensemble on Friday, February 10, at 7:30 pm. Beau Soir Ensemble is an acclaimed flute, viola, and harp trio, based in the Washington, DC, area, dedicated to performing standard and contemporary chamber music repertoire. Touted for its innovative sound and novel instrumentation, including two members of the National Symphony Orchestra, Beau Soir has delighted audiences since 2007 by offering a unique chamber concert experience featuring exciting performance style, diverse programming, and audience interaction. The concert is free!

fleur cross logo The 2023 BLA mailing was recently sent to parishioners. The theme is “My soul rejoices in the Lord,” which is shared with the second preparatory year of the Diocesan Jubilee. The BLA funds programs and ministries that serve thousands of people in our diocese. Through the inspiration of the BLA theme, joyfully pledge to support God’s Kingdom in our diocese! Click here to make a gift.

Fr. Don's Weekly Letter - January 29, 2023

Dear Good People of Saint Bernadette,


This week I finished signing all of the annual end-of-year statements to all of you who gave to church collections during the past year. Again we thank you for your generosity. It is only through your support of the Offertory that the work of the Church is accomplished. I am grateful to many who are so generous. Pastors in all churches have been worried about declining membership and financial support trends, but we have stayed steady here. Thanks, God.

These end-of-year statements record your charitable giving in case you itemize deductions for charitable gifts on your taxes. If your statement is incorrect or you didn’t get a letter from us and did give it to the parish last year, please get in touch with us so we can make any needed corrections.

This is the time of year when fundraising goes into full swing! Please don’t be upset, but I must beg again this year. To help simplify the schedule and assist in your consideration of options for support, here is a short list of fundraising coming up:

  • The Bishop’s Lenten Appeal is just around the corner. Everyone should have received information from the diocese by this week. The weekend of February 11-12 is Commitment Weekend, when we will complete the in-pew process of making pledges for the coming year. Our parish goal for 2023 is a bit up from last year. The BLA is a primary funding source for all diocesan outreach to the poor in need and seminary tuition for future priests. It provides physical and mental health through family services and two free medical clinics. We will have envelopes available that weekend for the in-pew process (please bring your pen!), or you can pledge online. Instructions are on the website this weekend.
  • Once we have reached our BLA goal, Phase II of our Capital Campaign for our parish will begin, in which we hope to receive another $3 million in pledges to start the construction of a desperately-needed conference center, a Parish Life Center, which will include a large hall on the upper floor and three meeting rooms, a reception area, and an atrium with an elevator which will make our existing parish offices completely accessible. Be sure to study the drawings on the wall in the vestibule at the entrance of the church. It looks like we aren’t having any luck with PowerBall and MegaMillions, so please consider us in your charitable giving this year. You will be hearing more about this soon.
  • Keep our school in mind with our Cardinals Care Annual Fund and our upcoming Jogathon. Unfortunately, we have postponed our School Auction to the fall. We don’t seem to find the volunteers to make such a considerable effort happen. We are most grateful for your faithful monthly second-collection gifts to the Tuition Assistance Program. Thanks to you, many children can benefit from Catholic education in our parish school. Catholic education truly makes a difference; it is a living legacy you can provide for the next generation of leaders in our society and our Church.

 

The Lord be with you,

Fr. Don's Weekly Letter - January 22, 2023

Dear Good People of Saint Bernadette,

This weekend, again this year, we are in the middle of the Christian Unity Octave, or the Week of Prayer for Christian Unity. It was begun over 100 years ago by Father Paul Wattson after he and his brothers, in an Episcopal Franciscan order, became Catholic, starting the Graymoor Friars of Riverside, New York. Each year a different group gathers (this year, churches in Milwaukee). It prepares an annual prayer service which the World Council of Churches then edits, and the Dicastery (formerly “Pontifical Council”) for Promoting Christian Unity at the Vatican. You may remember that last year we hosted the prayer service with Bishop Burbidge and several local pastors of various Christian denominations.

I wish I could report to you great success in the area of Christian Unity this year, but I cannot. There may be several simple reasons for this.
Probably the most obvious is that everyone is busy. The pandemic damaged many dialogue relationships because of a lack of meetings. Dialogue must be personal: if you do not know with whom you are speaking, there can be no real exchange of giving or receiving. Ecumenism is not the priority – well, it hasn’t been for quite some time, many calling our times an “Ecumenical Winter” – because if you have 30 initiatives on your list, Christian Unity is far enough down the list, you never get to it.

Another reason is dwindling budgets. As church membership declines, so does the financing needed to provide in-person dialogue. This is a reality for all denominations of Christianity, as they focus more on what they need to do to retain membership. Scandals don’t help either, as budgets are shifted away from anything that is not absolutely necessary. Offices and staff dedicated to Christian Unity in all churches across the board have been downsized or eliminated.

Finally, and probably the most frustrating, is that it seems that our churches are drifting farther and farther apart over moral teaching: life issues and the sexuality of the human person have many Christians believing that the Catholic Church is far behind the curve and there is nothing more to say. We are way beyond the ordination of women now.

However, all of these should be catalysts for working harder at maintaining relationships with the baptized family. Many of the works taking priority over unity might be done together, a way of building the relationship as we work side-by-side. That was a beautiful outcome of our work with Together We Rise Against Hunger this winter. Next time I hope we can host a gathering before the meal packing so that we might have an opportunity to get to know each other and have more of a chance to recognize each other in the community. Many things could be achieved if budgets were shared.

As far as the third, I don’t see a clear path ahead over moral teaching. But I know two things: It is Jesus’ will that we are one, as he and the Father are one, so the world might believe that the Father sent him. The other is that God can do anything. All we need to do is keep the relationships with ecumenical partners alive and attentive so that when the Holy Spirit comes (who will indeed heal our divisions), we will have the space in our hearts prepared for him to dwell with us together.

 

The Lord be with you,

Streaming Masses and Announcements for the week of 22 January 2023

 

Today's Live-Streamed Mass

Worship Aid for the 3rd Sunday of Ordinary Time

fleur cross logo Please don't forget to bring your blue bags for the Saint Lucy Food Drive this weekend. 

fleur cross logo We need your help with food donations and meal packing at St. Mark’s Hypothermia Shelter on January 28-29. Click here for more information on how you can volunteer.

fleur cross logo Join us on Tuesday, January 21, from 7-8:30 pm for Mass and Holy Hour in prayer for the Virginia Pro-Life Day on February 1.

fleur cross logo In support of Catholic Charities Migration and Refugee Services, Saint Bernadette will host a Baby Supplies Drive from January 21 through February 1. Our Fall 2023 Confirmation Candidates will pack diaper bags with supplies as a Work of Mercy in late February to be given to families served by Catholic Charities. The Migration and Refugee Services refugee health team have requested the following items. Items can be brought to the church during weekend Masses on January 21-22 and 28-29 and to the Pro-Life Mass and Holy Hour on Tuesday, January 31. 

  • Large items: infant car seats, strollers, pack and play, baby bathtub, bouncy seat, baby nest bed (click here for example), diaper bag, nursing pillow, wearable baby carrier, tummy time activity mat, pregnancy pillow, maternity jeans in small and medium
  • Diaper bag items: baby clothes for newborn-12 months, baby hygiene kit (click here for example), swaddling blankets, baby bottles, pacifiers, baby blankets, baby soap, baby shampoo, and baby oil.

For more information, please get in touch with Grace Rihl at grihl@stbernpar.org

fleur cross logo Concerts at Saint Bernadette present the Beau Soir Ensemble on Friday, February 10, at 7:30 pm. Beau Soir Ensemble is an acclaimed flute, viola, and harp trio, based in the Washington, DC, area, dedicated to performing standard and contemporary chamber music repertoire. Touted for its innovative sound and novel instrumentation, including two members of the National Symphony Orchestra, Beau Soir has delighted audiences since 2007 by offering a unique chamber concert experience featuring exciting performance style, diverse programming, and audience interaction. The concert is free!

fleur cross logo The 2023 BLA mailing was recently sent to parishioners. The theme is “My soul rejoices in the Lord,” which is shared with the second preparatory year of the Diocesan Jubilee. The BLA funds programs and ministries that serve thousands of people in our diocese. Through the inspiration of the BLA theme, joyfully pledge to support God’s Kingdom in our diocese! Click here to make a gift.

Streaming Masses and Announcements for the week of 15 January 2023

Today's Live-Streamed Mass

Worship Aid for the 2nd Sunday of Ordinary Time


fleur cross logo Please join Bishop Michael Burbidge on Sunday, January 15, as we celebrate the legacy of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. at our 11 am Mass. A light reception will follow in the school cafeteria..

fleur cross logo All parishioners who have volunteered in the past several years: come to our Night of Gratitude - Saturday, January 21, 7-11 pm. Join us for an evening of hors d’oeuvres, drinks, and dancing to the music of the Andrew Thielen Big Band of North Myrtle Beach. This will be our first big social event since the pandemic and an opportunity to recognize and appreciate the work of parish volunteers. RSVP to evargas@stbernpar.org by Sunday, January 15!

fleur cross logo Join us for Taizé Prayer Monday, January 16, at 8 pm. Come pray for Christian unity in our community and in the world. All Christians are warmly invited; invite your friends!

fleur cross logo Register for our Called and Gifted Workshop - Saturday, January 28, 8:30 am-5 pm. Once discerning what gifts God has given you, learn how to live into them to discover full life in God and service.


fleur cross logo We are hosting the Saint Lucy Food Drive for Catholic Charities again on January 21-22. Blue bags are distributed this weekend; please take bags home and bring them back filled for the hungry.

fleur cross logo We need your help with food donations and meal packing at St. Mark’s Hypothermia Shelter on January 28-29. Click here for more information on how you can volunteer.

fleur cross logo Join us on Tuesday, January 21, from 7-8:30 pm for Mass and Holy Hour in prayer for the Virginia Pro-Life Day on February 1.

fleur cross logo In support of Catholic Charities Migration and Refugee Services, Saint Bernadette will host a Baby Supplies Drive from January 21 through February 1. Our Fall 2023 Confirmation Candidates will pack diaper bags with supplies as a Work of Mercy in late February to be given to families served by Catholic Charities. The Migration and Refugee Services refugee health team have requested the following items. Items can be brought to the church during weekend Masses on January 21-22 and 28-29 and to the Pro-Life Mass and Holy Hour on Tuesday, January 31. 

  • Large items: infant car seats, strollers, pack and play, baby bathtub, bouncy seat, baby nest bed (click here for example), diaper bag, nursing pillow, wearable baby carrier, tummy time activity mat, pregnancy pillow, maternity jeans in small and medium
  • Diaper bag items: baby clothes for newborn-12 months, baby hygiene kit (click here for example), swaddling blankets, baby bottles, pacifiers, baby blankets, baby soap, baby shampoo, and baby oil.

For more information, please get in touch with Grace Rihl at grihl@stbernpar.org

Fr. Don's Weekly Letter - January 15, 2023

Dear Good People of Saint Bernadette,

For some weeks now, we will be worshipping together in Ordinary Time until February 22, which, as I always like to say, is far from ordinary!

The word “ordinary” is often misunderstood when used in Church circles. It doesn’t mean, as the first definition of the Oxford Dictionary, “with no special or distinctive features, normal.” Well, perhaps “normal” in the sense of normative is nearer the truth. And “extraordinary” doesn’t mean “better,” it means simply outside the norm.

Our bishop is known as the “Ordinary” of the Diocese because it is from
him that order is determined. This is Oxford’s second definition: “exercising authority by virtue of office, not by delegation.” Bishops aren’t plain or common, or even typical. The first is an adjective, and the second is a noun.

You may have heard the Mass of the Council of Trent, up until the Missal of 1962, referred to as the “extraordinary form” of the Mass. It isn’t that it is more special, it simply is outside what the Church considers normative since the reforms of Vatican II.

But “Ordinary Time” is a little trickier. If you read ordinary as an adjective, it can be confusing. But if you see both words as one noun, suddenly it might make clearer sense. Certainly, Lent, Easter, Advent, and Christmas are sometimes referred to as “privileged” seasons in the hierarchy of feasts, but the green season is the one where so much of our everyday life and growth takes place. It isn’t a less important time when celebrating Word and Sacrament at Mass is less required!

I was mentioning to David Mathers last week how we are hearing the Gospel of John the Baptist calling out Christ in the crowd, “Behold, the Lamb of God,” yet again this week. I should find the time to look and see how many times this account in the four Gospels appears in the three-year cycle! But this event also seems to blur the lines between what is considered “common,” and what is considered normative.

We already know how the story ends, but what if you didn’t, and were there at the Jordan that day, following the Baptist, when he suddenly points at this ordinary guy and makes such a claim? What? Him? How is that possible? Jesus’ life is suddenly, radically changed. After his baptism he goes immediately into the desert for forty days, then is confronted by the world’s evil one, then goes right to work with his public life, seemingly without looking back. In that sense, Jesus was ordinary, common, no different than you or me, hard-working, empathetic, and kind.

But it is exactly that humble humanity that he defines as normative for the work of salvation. In his humanity, he is exercising authority by virtue of office given to him by the Father. Because of this moment, we can look to each other and say, “Behold the Lamb of God.” We can look at every person in the world, no matter how joyous or sad, troubled or confused, even those who have seemingly lost their way... and say, “Behold.” There’s an ordinary vocation for all this time in-between.

 

The Lord be with you,

Streaming Masses & Announcements for the Week of January 8, 2023

Today's Live-Streamed Mass

Worship Aid for the Epiphany of the Lord


fleur cross logo Please join Bishop Michael Burbidge on Sunday, January 15, as we celebrate the legacy of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. at our 11 am Mass. A light reception will follow in the school cafeteria..

fleur cross logo All parishioners who have volunteered in the past several years: come to our Night of Gratitude - Saturday, January 21, 7-11 pm. Join us for an evening of hors d’oeuvres, drinks, and dancing to the music of the Andrew Thielen Big Band of North Myrtle Beach. This will be our first big social event since the pandemic and an opportunity to recognize and appreciate the work of parish volunteers. RSVP to evargas@stbernpar.org by Sunday, January 15!

fleur cross logo Join us for Taizé Prayer Monday, January 16, at 8 pm. Come pray for Christian unity in our community and in the world. All Christians are warmly invited; invite your friends!

fleur cross logo Register for our Called and Gifted Workshop - Saturday, January 28, 8:30 am-5 pm. Once discerning what gifts God has given you, learn how to live into them to discover full life in God and service.

 

Fr. Don's Weekly Letter - January 8, 2023

Dear Good People of Saint Bernadette,

 

It was probably a dozen years ago we were looking into the Called and Gifted Program, to see if it was something we would like to bring to the parish at Saint Mary. Rick Caporali and I were in Houston for CADEIO meetings, and we heard that there was going to be a Called and Gifted Workshop offered to the seminarians at Saint Thomas Aquinas Seminary.

I remember walking into the first conference Friday evening (it formerly was an evening and the following day conference – now it’s only one day) and saying to Rick, what if I discover that I have no gifts?

Some people might find that absurd, but even at that time, when I was 50, I had never really done any introspection to consider particular gifts that I might have received from God, nor had I considered what those gifts actually are. I had thought generally of myself as a gifted person, but never really took the time to think about it carefully.

That first Workshop for me was an eye-opener and I walked away feeling like I knew myself a whole lot better. I understood where those gifts might be used more effectively in my work as a priest, one who serves. Small group meetings for the next six weeks provide a context as well as the conversation to share and give feedback to each other as you “experiment” with the gifts which surfaced in the Workshop.

You see, God gives us the gifts of the Holy Spirit in Confirmation to personally grow into the Body of Christ as a person, but he also gives a lot of gifts through baptism to all the faithful, gifts which are intended to build up the Church, to serve one another, not ourselves. And it’s these gifts that the Called and Gifted Workshop explores.

Now, don’t think that this is some sort of scheme to grow volunteers. We’ve heard it said before: there’s no such thing as a volunteer in the Body of Christ. All are called, all are gifted, all have a place. It’s a vocation, not something that we choose to do. But to use these gifts for the purpose they are given can bring you great joy, and the satisfaction of knowing that you are following God’s will.

If only the whole parish would attend this Workshop! Certainly I want all our faculty and parish teachers and staff to come. It is through the recognizing of each others’ gifts and providing positive feedback that we learn to grow as a community, not just a collection of individuals trying to get what they want. It is a type of rediscovery with the generosity of God at its heart.

Consider it an opportunity to explore the basic building blocks of community as God intended his kingdom to be, which we know starts here, with us.

We will host presenters from the Catherine of Siena Institute on Saturday, January 28, from 8:30am to 5pm in the cafeteria of the school. I hope you will join us. You can register on our website.

 

The Lord be with you,

Streaming Masses and Announcements for the week of 1 January 2023

STREAMING SUNDAY AND WEEKDAY MASSES

 
SUNDAY, JANUARY 1
Mary, Mother of God
 We will follow the regular Sunday Mass schedule for the parish
 
SUNDAY, JANUARY 8: 
EPIPHANY of the LORD 
We will follow the regular Sunday Mass schedule for the parish


Today's Live-Streamed Mass

Worship Aid for the Solemnity Mary, the Holy Mother of God


fleur cross logo There will be no 7am morning Masses the week of January 2, 2023.

fleur cross logo Parish Offices will reopen Tuesday, January 3 at 8:30am.
 

fleur cross logo All parishioners who have volunteered in the past several years: come to our Night of Gratitude - Saturday, January 21, 7-11pm. Join us for an evening of hors d’oeuvres, drinks and dancing to the music of the Andrew Thielen Big Band of North Myrtle Beach. This will be our first big social event since the pandemic, and an opportunity to recognize and appreciate the work of parish volunteers. RSVP by Sunday, January 15!

fleur cross logo Register for our Called and Gifted Workshop - Saturday, January 28, 8:30am-5pm. Once discerning what gifts God has given you, learn how to live into them to discover full life in God and service. See page 7!

 

Fr. Don's Weekly Letter ~ 1 January 2023

Dear Good People of Saint Bernadette,

Today I want to give you a new year’s challenge: Take just a few moments each day before your thoughts get distracted by too many other worries and obligations, find silence. Ask God to let you see a face of him that is different from the one you think you know. I promise you, he is completely different. Every time I have ever had a conversation with someone who says they no longer believe in God, I ask them to describe for me who God is. I always agree: I wouldn’t believe in that one, either.

We often define who he is according to the circumstances or sufferings we know. As you might imagine, there was a flurry of more-than-usual confessions prior to Christmas again this year and there was a common theme. People are just angry. Really angry with God. How could he cause the death of someone so young? How can he stand by and allow my loved one to be treated like that? How many hardships is he going to send me? The world is a mess. I’m losing faith I’m so angry.

That is where I usually step in. I like to say that being angry is an act of great faith. It indicates a close-enoughness in a relationship that you can speak your feelings and believe he will hear it. When there is no faith, there is nothing to say. No point. It means we know that God is listening.

If we thought logically we would realize that he isn’t supposed to do what we tell him to do. But that doesn’t mean he is the author of the opposite.

So, ask God to let you see a face of him that is different from the one you think you know. Then take a few moments and just sit with him. He is the kind of friend (the best kind) withi whom you don’t have to always be saying something, talking about things. He is the kind of friend you can just sit with and be content with not speaking, just being together. And every once in a while, in the silence you have created, he says a Word.

Last week the world paused enough for that Word to be spoken. It became a man. Jesus entered our world so, literally, God can sit next to us. Suddenly we realize that it is love, and that he suffers with us everything we suffer. Imagine the limitation and frustration he must have known in the poverty and humility of our human nature. His loving presence is beauty. In the coming year set aside understandings of God produced by bad experiences or the voices of a world that does not know him, and grow in knowledge of him. In doing so, we will know ourselves.

Mark your calendars for these upcoming events in parish life:

All volunteers: come to our Night of Gratitude - Saturday, January 21, 7-11pm. Join us for an evening of hors d’oeuvres, drinks and dancing to the music of the Andrew Thielen Big Band of North Myrtle Beach. This will be our first big social event since the pandemic, and an opportunity to recognize and appreciate the work of parish volunteers. Anyone who has volunteered in the parish and school in the past several years is invited at no charge.

Register for our Called and Gifted Workshop - Saturday, January 28, 8:30am-5pm. Once discerning what gifts God has given you, learn how to live into them to discover full life in God and service. See page 7!

The Lord be with you,